August 24, 2015

Tullian Tchividjian is a quitter... er... Files for Divorce

Tullian Tchividjian Files for Divorce

Well he gave it a good college try for a full 9 weeks after semi-confessing his sin, that ought to be enough to save any marriage right?  Especially from someone who knows about grace!  What is he, like, 13??  Emotionally he's acting like a juvenile.  I can imagine that's very attractive for a wife.  Every time he opens his mouth, every move he makes, he actually makes his wife look more of the sympathetic character.

Totally disgusted.  What a complete quitter.  Hint, Tullian, if this is how you spiritually led your wife, you should probably spend more time looking in the mirror of God's law, which you so studiously avoid taking seriously.

Yes, I realize he found out about his marriage crisis, as he said, "three months prior" to his stepping down, he said -- putting it at the end of March.  But he couldn't even begin to start working on his marriage until he repented, which theoretically may have begun when he stepped down.  I have no confidence that he really repented at that time however, based on his behavior then and since.

So he says that he can't go and hide because he believes this thing about grace that he's been preaching, and that would show he doesn't really believe it.  So how does filing for divorce show that he believes in this radical grace thing?  Does it only apply "One Way"? i.e. In his direction?

As far as I have read, the only accusations made in public were from his mouth, not hers, so I have sadly all these questions as to the accuracy of those now too.  All she ever did was ask for privacy and say that her story is different than his.  And he refuses to respect that because he must continue to somehow demonstrate.  Is that part of a larger pattern?

Contrast that with the FIRST words we have heard from R W Glenn since he was removed a year ago.

And this quote from the initial story on Tullian's divorce:
Ross Peterson, executive director of Midwest Ministry Development, often works with pastors who face church discipline after an affair or other crisis. Some, he said, want to fast-forward through the restoration process.

“There’s a temptation to say, ‘What I did was wrong, I’m sorry, and there’s forgiveness,’” Peterson told CT. But forgiveness is different than restoration, he said.

Restoration is typically a long process of soul-searching and coming to grips with the harm a pastor caused by having an affair. Trying to maintain a public ministry on social media could undermined that process, said Peterson.
So, anyone want to start a pool on when Tullian will publicly get together with his "inappropriate relationship"?  Or maybe someone else...  Because a guy like him really needs someone to adore him. He can't possibly exist in a relationship vacuum.  When he took over at Coral Ridge, he has explained repeatedly, he had to deal with this shocking fact that some people didn't like him.  (The rest of us live with that as a daily experience.  Can you spell N-A-R-C-I-S-S-I-S-T?)  He explains something along the lines of how God used that to deal with this particular idol in his heart of needing the affirmation from people. It seems pretty clear now that at some point the idol he thought was ousted came back with seven of its friends.