Here's how you handle hospitality shown to you by a false teacher when they invite you into their den:
30:32 "If pastoring this church, proclaiming the gospel's about him then I'm free. So I don't -- If I come into a place like -- Elevation's just ridiculous, man I just feel like, since I landed people are like rubbing my shoulders, (building applause and excitement from crowd) and carrying my bags and it's like 'put me down I can walk!' right? (applause) I mean it's just ridiculous! All right? But here's the thing ... I'll sleep on your couch, I mean I'm not going to, but I would! All right? Got me a nice room, I'm staying in that room tonight, pastor, but... um ultimately I don't *need* that. I'm not in it for that! I'm not the point. That's why I get uncomfortable with some of the "aw man you changed my life!" Man, I didn't do anything! Tell you what, I studied some stuff and I yelled at you. And you're a bit masochistic, cuz you wanted me to do that. You're "call me a moron again!" "OK! Moron!" all right?" -- Matt Chandler at Elevation Church 1-13-12To me this sounds like a funny way of saying "flattery will get you nowhere."
He then continues talking about the apostle Paul and how he was unfazed by his trials and tribulations and just kept preaching the gospel, which I quoted some of in my previous article.
When someone uses you for PR purposes or tries to manipulate you and butter you up, you don't thank them for it. To try and flatter them for their hospitality is playing their game by their worldly rules, manipulating them in return. You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours. Thank them in private sure, be polite, sure. But there is no need to make a public proclamation about how nice a false teacher has treated you. Jesus never did. In fact, the only place I can remember him mentioning how a false teacher treated him, he rebuked them for how little they did.
"Then turning toward the woman he said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave me no water for my feet, but she has wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You gave me no kiss, but from the time I came in she has not ceased to kiss my feet. You did not anoint my head with oil, but she has anointed my feet with ointment." Luke 7:44-46