The White Horse Inn guys tackle the issue of whether we ought to expect life transformation from repentance. Contrast this with Jay Adams' approach of using the law/getting on the rat wheel of making yourself more holy and obedient. Super job, men.
Repentance and Personal Transformation
When I read things that promote the law-driven sanctification approach I think those who use it must have some kind of high view of their own ability to do good, and a deficient view of their own sin nature. Frankly, I am so sinful that I can't even accurately know where or how to begin making myself more obedient. Over time, God has done a better job mortifying my sin than I ever could through my own conscious effort, dealing with the issue that I happen to think is most important.
That is not to say I don't try. But I too often get it wrong. The things I see wrong in my life are not what my neighbor sees. And the things both my neighbor and I see are not what God sees as the thing which ought to be dealt with next.
So I find it to be a law that when I want to do right, evil lies close at hand. For I delight in the law of God, in my inner being, but I see in my members another law waging war against the law of my mind and making me captive to the law of sin that dwells in my members. Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself serve the law of God with my mind, but with my flesh I serve the law of sin. Romans 7:21-25
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